Focus on what she's saying, and take away a key point or two to remember--it could be the subject of a killer compliment sometime soon. But by succeeding a number of times, you would acquire the skill to think about fun things to divert your attention from the marshmallow, or …

Now I work with a great make-up artist and my acne days are over. Whatever you say, your answer probably doesn't include the word and. Even if you cannot see it in this moment with your earthly eyes, God is working in your story as well. Sheila initially sought my …

You have probably tried to make yourself be diplomatic when you are dealing with an aggravating customer or forced to fake happiness when your in-laws come to stay with you for an extended period of time. Eventually, it seemed almost cruel to continue torturing myself for what seemed like an …

We can think of discovery mode and defensive mode as being at opposite ends of a spectrum labeled the discover-defend axis. Furious, his dad threatened that they might not go hunting anymore. In that case, rejection really did mean death and connection meant survival. When this does not happen, and …

Between 1971 and 1984, 700,000 people underwent three days of EST (Erhard Seminar Training), where they learned to put themselves first, recognize that they were fully responsible for their own fates, understand that there were no victims in the world, and realize that they created their own reality. The …

Our compassion and cruelty, our peace and violence, our madness and meditation, mind and no-mind, silence and sound are all intertwined with one another. His sleep was far better, leaving him feeling more alert upon waking, and he experienced a tremendous improvement to his well-being. 'The Four Steps of Careful …

I can't get away from the feeling that I am dying. We allow comparisons to affect our current creative engagement. As long as these uncomfortable emotions are suppressed and ignored with all our will, it is not possible for the charges to decrease and dissipate. Drinking a glass of warm …

This would be a mistake if we want to understand the many faces of flourishing. For now, just delve into what is trying to get your attention and pause in the void where you can feel and listen and trust in what you are being shown. Have there been formative …

Mastery allows you the fullest range of creative expression--both the skill to be able to head in whatever direction you want, and the creative problem-solving to be able to recognize that new direction in the first place. However, this body language may suggest that they are feeling some form of …

We lived in a little village where people socialised together a lot. The more intense this struggle, the greater the learning. Otherwise we'd have to tell everyone, We're not certain what's best, so just sit on your couch until we figure it out. Even when I was a kid, people …

Your grief, however palpable, can begin to be healed--because you can see yourself changing. We need creative outlets for our thoughts and emotions. There is also the considerable economic toll of solitary confinement that we as taxpayers absorb, funds that could have real social impact in our communities if put …

If there have been ten things hanging over your head for weeks, knock them all out in one day. He can only remain weak, abject, and miserable by refusing to lift up his thoughts. In Bryce Courtenay's Recipe for Dreaming he describes how we can face and overcome personal challenges …

All you have to do is list your best, most flattering qualities. Because of this cultural messaging and all the pressure it places on us, we learn to ignore our needs. This includes facilities that are marketed as specializing in memory or dementia care. Living in Hawaii, I beheld the …

Recognizing that the world might pass you by if you don't change is half the battle. Hear, hear, good choice, the woman said as she picked up her fresh drink and clinked glasses with Jamie. Gaslighting is commonly used by narcissists, abusive partners, and people such as cult leaders. Even …

Remember that we're all psychologically drawn to people who look and behave like us, and much less likely to treat others as a potential threat if we think we're on the same team. Before you can embrace the new rules of fashion, you must erase the old ones from your …

Motivation is a state, specific to a given behavior, not a general trait inherent in a person. We moved over to Australia and lived there for a year or two. Thank you for wanting me to be THE BEST but I have work to do. In a typical school day …

And I couldn't wait to live my life with joy and abandon! In his tremendously influential 'stage theory' of development, Piaget implicitly accepted the cultural assumption that d-mode was the highest form of intelligence, and through the impact that his approach has had on several generations of educators, he inadvertently …

Being lovingly detached is the best way to honor one another's journey. Shared media experiences--reading the same books, sharing a movie night together, or watching the same TV shows--have been found to create stronger connections in couples. We can't deny that scientists can also be blinded, contributing to some of …

I already see you shaking your head, saying to yourself, There's no way that links up with anything! Just as it is no coincidence that he chooses a person easy and with several weaknesses. Alas, this never seemed to work quite as well with adolescents and adults, who generally saw …

This smooth precious stone is known as the incomparable nurturer. Suffering from cognitive fatigue affects your decisions, and having to make enough decisions eventually leads to cognitive fatigue. In addition, a lowered brow could indicate disrespect. Many children feeling anxious have difficulty switching gears between activities. The roads grew up …

Take time to visualize exactly the amount and kind of abundance you want for yourself. They began construction on a new, five-thousand-seat church, the Metropolitan Tabernacle, and while they waited, they rented spaces to hold the swelling crowds flocking to hear their sensational preacher. As a result, the city has …

I have a friend who says he would make more of an effort to drop his defeated attitudes toward the possibility of a new life, but he's convinced there's so much wrong with him that he doesn't have a chance to succeed. You can gauge Venus's strength in an astrological …

At this point in the article, you're well aware of the powerful impact thoughts have on how we feel, act, and interact with our child and the larger world. That being so, this is one of the rare situations that I recommend following a general formula rather than identifying the …

I can't say that Austin's grades took any remarkable upswings--they improved a bit, but he simply wasn't cut out to be a star student. Don't worry about the fact that you still have a pretty great GPA and really won't do that bad in the class when all is said …

But to deny its existence in us when it does exist is of little use, and it's better to illuminate, then looking at it better. Not everyone in prison is bad, I said quickly, glancing at my children's bright faces in the car's rearview mirror. In collaboration with my colleague …

I go to the shrink today and he takes me to the DMV on Friday. If your breathing rhythm becomes chaotic or it is necessary to open your mouth to breathe, your exercise intensity is too much. Mastery at this level meant our ancestors could make decisions rapidly and effectively …

Many people with CFS/FMS are financially devastated and can't afford very much at all. It will then tailor a protocol to optimize your energy using a mix of natural and prescription therapies. Usually it contains very little processed food, particularly processed grains and sweeteners, and proportionally less red meat …

If portal blood flow is going slowly, sludgily, then it probably won't show up on any tests, but it will still be a problem. What am I going to do about my employees stealing from me? When judging arises, if you acknowledge it with spacious, non-judgmental attention, you loosen its …

His life is full of work of various levels of urgency screaming for his attention. They do not transform you in real ways that let you thrive and be happy. For fat loss, the goal in exercise is not time duration or endurance, but intense sequences of exercise that will …

He first found a home in his native Russian Orthodox church, but he eventually broke away and started living according to his own stripped-down version of Christianity, which focused on adhering to Christ's teachings in the Sermon on the Mount. Various studies have found better relationships with others and better …

In a small bowl, stir together the hummus, chia seeds, olives, and vinegar. Fasting was breaking the chains of her food addictions without even intending to do so. When my wife, Betsy, and I arrived in Los Angeles thirty-four years ago, after Lionel, who was then president of the temple …